Yesterday I did something spontaneous, it worked successfully and instilled confidence in both Emily and me. It made me re-address how living with a disabled person imposes care routines and schedules that without attention become accepted, fixed and rigid. A change in routine is cathartic, it releases the mind and body from stagnation and infuses excitement back into the day.
I acknowledge there are aspects of care that do need regular attention, but I don’t overly dwell on daily routines as that allows them to take on a momentum and a life of their own. Routines can become demanding “we can’t do that because of our routine“, “we have to get back because of our routine care “, ” It’s too early as our routine care is scheduled for then.” The routine becomes inflexible not because it is but because we allow it to be.
With a swift slap to the face with a wet fish I can adjust the care routine, alter the schedule, tweak times to better suit us. The care routine is there to serve a purpose, it’s there to assist and should be run at our convenience not the other way around. If care routines and schedules interweave into Emily’s social diary, life can be relaxed, do-able and a normalcy can be achieved. Living governed by scheduling reduces the mental capacity for spontaneity and certainly opens the door to droll, dull and mundane. Make life’s routines work for you or at least with you, mix it up and suddenly you expand the horizon of possibilities. I can do that, I’ll just have to complete that routine earlier/later/tomorrow.
Work outside the box
Dump the notion that routines are inflexible and organize something spontaneous – it can make a difference to everyone’s well-being.
“No Beastie – We are trying to work outside the box today………..”