We mustn’t lose ourselves in our role as carers. I maintain myself by writing, with an avid interest in photography. I also make time to phone a friend …and cycle!
My friends that quilt and sew came over for an evening of knit and natter recently. We sat around with our needles and pins with a glass of wine, biscuits and tea. Material draped over all the eye could see. I just hoped everyone wouldn’t get confused in the revelry of conversation and swallow a pin instead of a shortcake!
We established over the course of our evening what we would choose to do if alone with free time. One girlfriend would continue to quilt, one would read a novel and I would write. Another girlfriend would choose to draw and sketch while another friend would take a walk with her dog. All our hobbies were driven by an underlying interest, it is what we felt driven to do in a spare moment.
As a carer it is pivotal to ensure that hobbies are given a tick or two of time so that your fundamental inner self sees daylight and is acknowledged. Pursuing my interests help to nurture me with positive feelings, I still inhabit myself and have a little me time.
Phone a friend
Nattering with my girlfriends threw up a specter as I remembered I had had an hour in the week when all was calm in the house. I realise that everyone might think I’m constantly busy, which is why I schedule time in my day to phone a friend. I make time to text or email invites to chums for tea and coffee, a walk or organise a quilters knit and natter date.
It is important to witness yourself as part of a big picture, a community, as otherwise caring can be too absorbing and isolating.
As the quilters all gathered their threads and tidied their needles away to go home we rejoiced in a fellowship of companionable activity. Picking up the phone to organise a get together was well worth the effort. I should do it more often…
Exercise with friends too…
Hope your furry friends don’t sit on you!