The 20592 hours since 1st Feb 2012 has been a whole lifetime as Emily has had to adapt and re-learn skills, review her lifestyle and future goals. I have had to alter my life too and accept everyday caring as a major component. The interval statistics are more than just numbers they are a numerical display representing our journey; 2 years, 4 months and 7 days highlights a physical, emotional and educational differential that has transpired to date. The journey has been breathtakingly hard at times; it required more effort and endurance than we imagined or could ever have predicted or perceived at the beginning. But here’s the truth – I never envisaged Emily and I would be so positive, planning European holidays, she’s back at Sydney University and enjoying life – so soon. I can’t deny my excitement about where we will be in the future.
I acknowledge our start point 122 weeks and 4 days ago. We have moved forward but not without effort and a determination to improve. I was driven to read, research and understand more about spinal cord injury. It was natural for me to want to improve my comprehension of carers and everyday caring practices. There has been no complacency because both Emily and I are constantly seeking to acquire further education, more experience and greater confidence. All these elements unite and are demonstrated as a life full of positive liveliness. The entire family shows an animated spirit and vigor which heartens our resolve to be resilient.
In the 858 days following the accident; I have created a blog, a Twitter account #everydaycaring, a Facebook page @everydaycaring, as part of my sharing journey. I am learning about caring, coping and social media communication. The availability of online data staggers me daily, the 24/7 opportunity to type into the search bar inquiries like days in-between calculator to get: 74131200 seconds since Emily’s fall is initially sad but also awesome.
For me it was a natural progression into social media communication. As I trawled the internet for information, fished for websites and news, an IT world opened up before my eyes on the small screen of my computer. I appreciated articles that shared empathetic stories and experiences, shared information and hope. I began to write a blog because I had too much information. I wanted to share because I was aware that the contribution of others supported Emily and my recovery, the assistance of experienced counsel smoothed issues and highlighted the better routes to travel. A few words of advice can facilitate, kind words helped us avoid the frustrations of failure. This social media communication tool can be accessed 24/7 worldwide, amazing from the comfort of my front room to yours!
I did not sell my skis because I am defeated as a skier, I’m not terrified after Emily’s accident although there is a degree of ambivalence. I sold my skis because I’ve moved on. Life goes on, life changes and we evolve and I am looking forward to Thursday 13th October 2016 exactly 2 years, 4 months and 7 days of living!